Because we are all so busy, we need to make the most of our time. I have found that a simple yet thorough plan helps me get where I am going faster, with less stress, and looking like a million bucks!
I have also discovered that fear can become one of our biggest obstacles, especially when it comes to planning a wedding. We can let fear take over and then make bad decisions based on fear. My 10 Commandments are not only things I have learned from my experience planning my wedding but also from the experience of helping my friends’ weddings go off without a hitch. I hope these tips will help you plan your own special day!
1. Know what you want and be confident in it: Many brides think they know exactly what they want in their wedding day but when asked if they would change anything they say they wouldn’t because they’re happy with how everything turned out even though something was different than what they had originally thought.
2. Put your trust in those who are experts: This is not the time to try to save money by doing everything yourself or using unqualified people to help you with your big day. This is the one time you don’t want to cut corners since you want your special day to be perfect. Hire
For the last four months I have been planning a wedding. It’s been an exciting, stressful, and often overwhelming experience, but it has also taught me a lot of things about what makes a good wedding.
The following is the result: The Ten Commandments of Wedding Planning. These are my guidelines in planning my wedding, and my hopes for the marriage I will be starting on August 4th.
1. Thou shall not compare your wedding to those of others.
Comparing your wedding to that of others does nothing but make you unhappy with the plans you’ve made for yourself. Comparing your wedding to those of others will only show you how much better other people’s weddings are than yours or how much worse yours is than theirs. And let’s face it, who doesn’t love feeling inadequate? Keep this in mind as you plan: if you’re having fun with the process and don’t feel like you’re obsessing over every detail–you’re probably doing ok!
2. Remember why you are getting married.
Weddings are expensive. Some people can afford to have a $50,000 extravaganza (I am not one of them), but even if you are one of these people, do you really want to spend
Disclaimer: I am not a professional wedding planner. I am just a girl writing about her own experience. I spent an entire year researching, planning, and organizing my big day and some of the things that I think are important to know before you start making decisions.
If you are like I was before I got engaged, the idea of planning a wedding may be something akin to the idea of planning a space shuttle launch. It’s important, but it’s also so big, and there are so many variables, and the stakes are so high that it almost seems like an impossible task.
As an engineer, I like to think logically. I like to break things down into smaller problems (or sub-problems) that can be solved individually. This is how we organize our work; it’s how computers work; it’s how nature works; it’s how humans work.
Understanding each piece in the system helps us understand the whole system. If we understand each piece, we begin to understand the problem at a deeper level than just assuming everyone will “do their part.” This approach has helped me think about my wedding in much less intimidating terms. Understanding each piece allows me to see what is really essential and what is just extra stuff that no one will care about anyway on the day of my wedding.
We all have different interests in life and different priorities for our time and money when it comes to celebrations. When you get married, you are celebrating love and commitment with your significant other, not creating an event for your friends and family
1.”It’s your special day. You can do whatever you want.”
I’m not sure where this myth came from, but it’s a total lie. It’s your special day, but it’s also your parents’ special day, your fiance’s special day, your family and friends’ special day, and your wedding vendors’ special day. And of course it’s the guests’ special day too. So while you can control what you do on your special day (well…), you have to consider that everyone else involved in the festivities have their own idea of how they want things to be.
So before you start planning, sit down and think about what everyone wants out of this wedding. It may seem awkward at first, but I promise that once you get talking about what people would like to see happen at the wedding, everyone will be more than happy to give their input!
2.”Don’t worry about the money.”
Oh boy. Money makes up a huge part of planning a wedding. This is one of those times when DIY is great because it saves you a ton of money on things like flowers, invitations, and decorations. But there are also tons of other things that cost money (and not just the dress). Keep an eye on what
“You can’t make everyone happy, so you might as well make yourself happy.”
That’s what an acquaintance from church told me this weekend at my bridal shower. I think that’s the best advice I’ve gotten thus far in wedding planning. Let’s face it—money is short, time is short, family members are busy and you have to pick and choose what you want to do for your wedding. And you have got to work within a budget.
